BEING SINGLE BY CHOICE ROCKS

I am wearing Wharton white dress shirt, Memo black trousers, knit vest from Gap, F & H striped bow tie and Adidas Superstar II.

I am not entirely sure why most men hate it when asked by their loved ones “what are you thinking?” I used to be asked by that line quite a bit, actually, and I never really got  to answer with a straight face. But I think most men feel invaded. Men are, by and large, more “emotionally contained” than women are. Men use "joke-speak" to mask their real emotions. Men evolved the ability to contain their feelings, sometimes even from themselves! So we are not as comfortable sharing our intimate world because we feel our words might backfire on us. In an effort to break the cycle let me share something intimate about relationships.

A wise young friend once said: "It takes half the time you dated someone to fully get over them." It's like a math solution of what known as romance equation, the unwritten rule that implies that - if you went out with the person for, let's say three years, it means that you got 18 months to get over with that person until you finally get back in the game. That just doesn't sound right, noh?!

Some people want a help-mate, someone who will build a family and share their moral code. Others want a soul-mate, someone with whom they can share their deepest needs and feelings. Others seek a mind-mate, someone with whom they can exchange ideas and fulfill their ambitions. And some want a play-mate, someone who will go adventuring with them, either intellectually or physically. Living in a town where everyone's dying to couple up, sometime there's nothing better than being out of the relationship. In most cases being single is just what a person needs. You have more time for yourself - to sleep as long as you want; to go for a long walk alone and lose yourself with the faces and places; and of course do weird stuffs that a loved one might not approve of. But the best part of being single is having adequate time to catch up with your close friends. And discover with them that there is something thrilling about varying the pace of life. It's really important to be unattached for a while and get to know this new you.

There are times we need to stop and look who we are and appreciate how far we have come and less attention on how far we still need to go. Freeing oneself of everything we've been holding on is crucial to send us on our new path...the right path. I needed to make a choice and I choose me! Because when I am truly single, I step to quite a different tune.